A few months ago, a friend of mine was telling me how her son was being bullied at school. She commented how lucky we are that we don’t have this problem because we homeschool. Nothing could be further from the truth.
As we have become more involved with study groups, organizations and play groups, we have encountered our fair share of bullying. My son has been pushed, pulled, intimidated. These bullying events left my sweet natured, peace loving child feeling vulnerable and confused. His first instinct was avoidance of the places where the bullying took place.
In discussing how to handle bullies, we have shared our experiences and our belief that bullying cannot be avoided; it must be confronted.
We do not mean he should meet violence with violence as a rule. That is most definitely a last resort. We mean he has to be brave and hide his fear away until it doesn’t exist anymore because bullies feed on fear.
To assist us in helping him understand, we read Secret of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Milman. The boy in the story is Danny. He’s new in school and he’s being bullied. He learns two important lessons in the story. First, you can’t run away from a problem; it will just keep chasing you. Second, the secret of courage is to act brave even though you may not feel brave.
What I like especially about this book is that Danny is taught to deflect the verbal and physical attacks by using peaceful techniques. My son has been practicing these with us so that next time he comes face to face with a bully, now and later in life, he will have the tools he needs to walk away unscathed and with the confidence that he can handle himself.
Article By Nuria Almeida
Picture By Eddie~S